guilt

I’m using formula and I feel guilty… but not for the reason you think

I’m using formula and I feel guilty… but not for the reason you think {0}

The guilt started on day four.  Weeping, a heart that literally hurt with pain.  As I put the bottle of formula to my beautiful new baby’s lips I felt overcome with regret.  But not for the reason you think. I am perfectly happy to feed my new baby formula. The aching guilt I feel is(…)

Top Ten Tips for bottle-feeding parents

Top Ten Tips for bottle-feeding parents {0}

I recently ran a workshop for my daughter’s day care about good bottle-feeding practice.  I was pleasantly surprised by how much the carers knew, and how supportive they were of both breastfeeding and bottle-feeding. The one thing that struck me though was that in the few cases where bad practice was happening, it was coming(…)

2015: Year of the anti-Superwoman

2015: Year of the anti-Superwoman {2}

Thank God 2014 is over.  Seriously, I was counting down the days until I could usher in 2015. My friends can’t understand why I feel like this.  Looking at achievements – those things that are most measurable – it was a great year.  I got a fantastic job that is going well, I published a(…)

Breastfeeding targets set new mothers up to fail.  Let’s get real

Breastfeeding targets set new mothers up to fail. Let’s get real {0}

This post was originally published in The Guardian Governments love a target. We’ve got targets on everything, from economic growth to train delays. They give civil servants and their political masters something to aim for, something to benchmark. But frequently these targets do little more than fill bureaucratic hours measuring them. Sometimes, they even do(…)

‘This whole notion of someone else making them feel guilty is a nonsense’

‘This whole notion of someone else making them feel guilty is a nonsense’ {0}

Guilt-Free Bottle-Feeding got a great write-up in yesterday’s Fairfax newspapers, under the title, “Navigating guilt in the milky way.” Mum Kate van Ingen spoke about the six weeks of ‘hell’ she spent trying to breastfeed her now two year old, and how isolated she felt as she turned to formula.  Dr Nicole Highet of COPE,(…)

GUEST POST: Breastfeeding mums less likely to suffer from PND, but WHY?

GUEST POST: Breastfeeding mums less likely to suffer from PND, but WHY? {0}

This guest post is written by Dr Nicole Highet, the founder and Executive Director of the Centre of Perinatal Excellence (COPE) who also wrote the forward to Guilt-Free Bottle-Feeding.  One of Nicole’s many missions is to redefine the images of motherhood, to make them more realistic. This post is reprinted with permission and you can find the original on(…)

Why you shouldn’t freak out about the new breastfeeding studies from Pediatrics

Why you shouldn’t freak out about the new breastfeeding studies from Pediatrics {0}

A bunch of studies published in the journal Pediatrics have been getting a lot of attention this past week.  So they should:  they are well-designed and conducted pieces of research into the effect of early nutrition (so, what babies eat before they are one) on children at aged six. Unfortunately, as so often happens when breastfeeding is(…)

WATCH: What a psychiatrist says about bottle feeding guilt

WATCH: What a psychiatrist says about bottle feeding guilt {0}

When most women start bottle feeding, the overwhelming emotion they feel is guilt.  Guilt that you’ve ‘failed’ at something ‘natural’.  Guilt because you feel, because you’ve been told so many times, that you’re not giving your baby ‘the best’ (the breast).  Guilt because perhaps you’re relieved that the pain of breastfeeding is finished, but that(…)