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I’m using formula and I feel guilty… but not for the reason you think

I’m using formula and I feel guilty… but not for the reason you think {0}

The guilt started on day four.  Weeping, a heart that literally hurt with pain.  As I put the bottle of formula to my beautiful new baby’s lips I felt overcome with regret.  But not for the reason you think. I am perfectly happy to feed my new baby formula. The aching guilt I feel is(…)

What midwives are supposed to tell you about formula feeding, but usually don’t

What midwives are supposed to tell you about formula feeding, but usually don’t {0}

I have a few hazy memories of when I gave birth to my daughter.  One is looking down at the registrar obstetrician stitching my clacker back up, then seeing the consultant come over, say, slightly alarmed, “What are you doing here?” and then rapidly taking over when it became obvious that whatever she was doing,(…)

WATCH: What a psychiatrist says about bottle feeding guilt

WATCH: What a psychiatrist says about bottle feeding guilt {0}

When most women start bottle feeding, the overwhelming emotion they feel is guilt.  Guilt that you’ve ‘failed’ at something ‘natural’.  Guilt because you feel, because you’ve been told so many times, that you’re not giving your baby ‘the best’ (the breast).  Guilt because perhaps you’re relieved that the pain of breastfeeding is finished, but that(…)

Welcome to Guilt-Free Bottle Feeding

Welcome to Guilt-Free Bottle Feeding {1}

I chose to bottle feed.  I made the decision when I was seventeen, exactly seventeen years before I had my first child. When I say I chose to bottle feed, what I actually chose to do was to have a breast reduction. I was sick of having double-F breasts stuck on a size ten frame,(…)